Divorce is something that everyone knows about. What was once such an uncommon and sad thing has become very popular with the marriages of today. My parents divorced when I was only six years old, in first grade, before I knew how anyone could fall out of love. The only thing I had ever heard of was "happily ever after," my mind was completely blown by my parents suddenly not being married anymore. Though it truly wasn't a mutual split and my mom honestly would have done anything to save the marriage for mine and my sister's sake, I have learned a lot of things from growing up a child of divorce, most of them concerning love: and I can honestly say that I am thankful for having to go through something so hard.
1. If your heart is not 100% in your marriage before you say "I do," it's not meant to happen.
2. You can't fix a person that doesn't want to be fixed.
3. No matter how hard you try, the person you love still could leave you.
4. Relationships are scary.
5. Know what else is scary? Sharing your life with someone else, knowing that at any second they very well could decide to pack up and leave you.
6. Just because you are in love with someone does not mean that you should marry them.
7. If you are meant to be with the person you're with, you will know deep down inside. Always go with your gut. It's never too late to change your mind, even if you're headed down the aisle. Your parents would rather waste money on a cancelled wedding than helping you out after a messy divorce.
8. You can learn a lot about how you should be treated based on how your dad treats your mom.
9. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
10. People fall out of love every day, but it can take years to admit.
11. The right person for you will never leave you questioning their feelings. If they love you, you will know.
12. You may not get everything right the first time around, there is nothing wrong with getting married again.
13. Not everyone finds their soulmate in college or even in their twenties. Sometimes you find your soulmate just before your 50th birthday and will to introduce them to your two nearly grown daughters.
14. Marriage truly is not for everyone. If you don't think marriage is for you, don't get married.
15. Having two different families and two different bedrooms at two different houses is really hard on kids.
16. Do everything possible to avoid putting your kids through a divorce. However, do not expose them to a toxic relationship and treat it as "normal", this is only more cognitively harmful.
17. Love is messy. It is also beautiful when it's right.
18. You aren't required to love anyone just because they're dating/married to your parent.
19. Just because your parents didn't get it right doesn't mean that you want. Learn from their mistakes and try your hardest to keep them in mind when you're planning your own future.