Finals are fast approaching for some and are nearly over for others, but either way, whether you're ready to swing into next year or still stuck in an examination rut this week, try some life hacks to ease your tension!
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it feels like yesterday that we were jumping up and down in the kitchen while tears of joy ran down our faces as the college acceptances started rolling in. You tagged along on my campus tours and wrote the pros and cons while I listed them off as I paced back and forth trying to make the decision of where my home would be the next four years. As six months till move in day has now turned into less than two weeks I just have a few things to say:
First, I'm going to miss you! Yes, I reminded you every couple of days how close we were to move in day and I've said several times that I can't wait to start this new chapter in my life but, I'm a lot sadder than I let on. In the midst of my excitement I have ignored the thought of not being able to see you everyday, being able to sing in the car with you to the songs we know we can kill, eating popcorn while watching Grey's Anatomy on Thursday nights, or even something as simple as sharing a meal with you.
Secondly, I want you to know how much I appreciate you. Mom, I appreciate everything you have done for me thus far in life. I appreciate you dealing with the stressful side of me that came out while dorm shopping, when I know I didn't make it easy. Thank you loving me and encouraging me these past several years that made me into the person I am today. I am grateful for the sacrifices you have made and will probably make in the future with my best interest in mind. I feel so blessed that you are my sunshine on my cloudy days.
Third, I want to apologize in advance. I know there will be times I'm too busy to come home some weekends or even talk for an hour, despite really wanting to. There will be days filled with stress when I don't want you to know about the test I failed earlier that day or about the argument I had my boyfriend or roommate. Don't take any sass or delayed texts to heart, because you know I'll always call you back, I'll always break down and need your direction, and I'll always need to hear your voice.
One last thing, you will always be my best friend. You are the person who I get all of my advice from and the one who can make me laugh when all I want to do is cry. You turn my bad days into great ones. I can't wait to make you proud as I continue my education and start this new chapter in my life but, I hope you know it's all because of you. Your constant love, support, mother-daughter meals, advice, jam sessions in the car, hugs while I've cried and laughs to make me smile have all made me the person I am today. A person proud to be your daughter and a person who's ready to start college. So, mom, this one is for you!
P.S. thank God for FaceTime, am I right?
Hello, Freshman Year Me,
First of all, welcome to college! Wow, it's so big and beautiful and the world is full of possibilities! But let me tell you Past Me, Current You has seen some things and gained a little knowledge since your wide-eyed self-set foot on campus. Here are some things I wish I could've told you.
1. Tinder is not the be-all end-all of dating
I know you were always ashamed to have this app on your phone and promptly deleted it when you came home for the summer, but you should never feel compelled to re-download that app. You've found two great boyfriends without having to swipe right on them. The guys that you've found through Tinder? Yeah, less than favorable people. Just know your person will come at the right time.
2. You don't have to go to EVERY party you're invited to
Actually, knowing what you went through freshman year, it's probably better for your mental health if you stay home from most parties. You never were one to go out and drink your weight so don't feel you need to become that person. A night home watching a movie with a face mask on is just as much, if not MORE, fun than a night out.
3. Speaking of your mental health...
It is completely normal to go through a period of homesickness and you know Mom and Dad will gladly have you come home for a weekend if that's what it takes for you to be okay. You cannot let yourself get to a dark place because you'll stay there and let the darkness swallow you whole. Find help, reach out, and know you'll be okay.
4. Don't forget about the people who made you who you are
You'll want to distance yourself from your friends back home and will feel the need to shun anyone who tries to talk to you in favor of your 'new college life'. That will hurt more people than it helps, trust me. Your life at college and your life at home are not two separate things.
You don't just trade one life for another and become a totally new person, that's literally not how anything works. Stay in touch and be a friend to people at home and in college.
5. Grades. Do. Not. Matter.
Okay well, they matter in some respect, but you shouldn't feel compelled to get A's on everything like you did in high school. A B- or C+ every now and then isn't the end of the world. Have some fun in college and don't worry about getting the best grade in the class.
6. The Freshman 15 won't happen to you
You'll get lucky in this instance which is odd because time has proved that you're not a very lucky person! But all those scary stories you've heard about excessive weight gain aren't true in your instance. Keep eating your salads from that amazing Flint Dining Hall salad bar and you'll be just fine.
7. Do not become a different person...
Mature and grow, don't be childish and change. You don't need to lose who you are to have fun in college. Stay true to yourself and you'll be okay.
8. ...But have some fun before you die
As Christine from Simply Nailogical says, 'It's time to paint your nails and have some fun before you die." It's college! Get involved, make amazing friends, and do what will make you the happiest. There's no need to please anyone or be a certain person. Just be your fantastic self and I promise good people, opportunities, and hilarity will follow.