We've all asked ourselves that question. We ask ourselves "What happened to that person I dated? Should I reach out to them?" If you haven't, you are probably in the minority. While it's perfectly normal to want to reach out to your ex after a breakup, there are a lot of things to consider before sending that text. Only decide to reach out when you can check off every single one of the following things.

1. When you are no longer in love with them.

2. When you are no longer mad at them.

3. When you are sober.

4. When you've learned to forgive.

5. When it feels right.

6. When they can mention a new partner without you flipping a chair.

7. When you genuinely want them to be happy.

8. When you're not looking for sex.

9. When you know you can without gloating.

10. When you've talked it through with your friends.

11. When you know that you FOR SURE don't want to get back together.