11 Questions We Still Ask Our Moms At 20

11 Questions We Still Ask Our Moms At 20

We want to be an independent adult, but who are we kidding, we need our mom.
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We want to be an independent adult, but who are we kidding, we need our mom. Here are a few questions we still ask our moms when we're 20 years old.

1. What's my Social Security Number?

I really should know the answer to this, but I can just never remember and mom is only a phone call away!

2. Can I wash my lights & darks together?

Regardless of the fact I've been washing my laundry for at least 5 years now, I will never perfect my laundry. Leave it to our moms to tell us time and again what can and can't be washed together.

3. How long do I cook chicken?

My mom always cooks dinner at home and I swear no matter how many times she tells me how long to cook chicken, it never tastes as good as hers.

4. What should I take for my cold?

It's not easy to take care of yourself when you have a cold. My mom was always there to brings me soup and medicine and all I had to worry about was watching TV. Now I have to fend for myself.

5. Can you help me make my doctors appointment?

As bad as it sounds, our moms are like our personal secretary. She knows all the doctors to call and she has all the numbers.

6. How long does it take the oven to preheat?

The number of times I've asked my mom this question is just flat out embarrassing. And to make it worse, I just expect my mom knows what I'm making and what temperature I'm heating it to.

7. My car broke down, what do I do?

I admit I'm not a true adult. I need her help on what to do when I need my oil changed, need to put air in my tire, need to change my tire or run out of gas.

8. How do I address a letter?

Yes, I have been addressing letters since the 2nd grade, but sometimes I need a little reminder of what goes where and which side to put the stamp on.

9. How do I make the smoke alarm stop beeping?

Hands down the most annoying noise in the world, but my mom knows how to make it stop!

10. Does this sound okay?

Whether its a text to a new date or an email to your coworker or professor, our moms always know what to say.

11. Whatcha doing?

Ok so this isn't really advice, but I am guilty of always asking my mom what she's doing. Just because she's far away doesn't mean I don't wanna know what she's doing at all times!

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4 reasons how Drake's New Album May Help Us Fight Mental Illness

Increasing Evidence Points to Music as a Potential Solution to the Mental Health Problem.

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Okay, You caught me!

I am NOT just talking about everybody's favorite actor-turned-rapper— or second, if you've seen Childish Gambino's "This is America" music video. Unfortunately, current research hasn't explored specific genres and artists. However, studies HAVE provided significant evidence in possibilities for music to treat mental health disorders. Now, before you say something that your parents would not be proud of, ask yourself if you can really blame me for wanting to get your attention. This is an urgent matter concerning each one of us. If we all face the truth, we could very well reach one step closer to solving one of society's biggest problems: Mental Health.

The Problem:

As our nation continues to bleed from tragedies like the horrific shooting that shattered the lives of 70 families whose loved ones just wanted to watch the "Dark Knight Rises" during its first hours of release, as well as the traumatic loss of seventeen misfortunate innocents to the complications of mental health disorders in the dear city of Parkland— a city mere hours from our very own community— it's impossible to deny the existence of mental illness. As many of us can already vouch, mental illness is much more common than what most would think: over 19 million adults in America suffer from a mental health disorder. Picture that: a population slightly less than that of Florida is plagued by hopelessness, isolation, and utter despair.

Disease in the form of depression holds millions of people prisoner, as anxieties instill crippling desperation and too many struggles with finding peace. This can be you. It could be your brother, your sister, your mother, your father, your cousin, your aunt, your uncle, your friend, your roommate, your fraternity brother, your sorority sister, your lab partner, or just your classmate that sits in the corner of the lecture hall with a head buried into a notebook that camouflages all emotion.

I hope we— the UCF community— understand the gravity of the problem, but it's clear that some still see mental illness as a disease that affects only a handful of "misfits" who "terrorize" our streets, while the numbers reveal more to the issue. In fact, 1 in 5 Americans suffers from a mental health disorder. The problem is so serious that suicide has risen to become the second-leading cause of death among 20 to 24-year-olds. While many continue to ask for more antidepressants and even the occasional "proper spanking," recent studies indicate increases in occurrence, such as one in depression from 5.9% in 2012 to 8.2% in 2015. So, clearly, none of that is working.

The Evidence:

If we really want to create a world where our children are free from the chains of mental illness, we need to think outside the box. Doctors and scientists won't really talk about this since it's still a growing field of research, but music has strong potential. We don't have any options at the moment, which means we need to change our mindset about music and to continue to explore its medicinal benefits. If you're still skeptical because of the title, then please consider these 4 pieces of solid evidence backed by scientific research:

1. Music has been proven to improve disorders like Parkinson's Disease.

Researchers sponsored by the National Institute of Health— the country's largest research agency— saw an improvement in the daily function of patients with Parkinson's Disease. This makes patients shake uncontrollably, which often prevents them from complete functionality. The disease is caused by a shortage of dopamine— a chemical your neurons, or brain cells, release; since music treats this shortage, there's an obvious ability to increase dopamine levels. As numerous studies connect dopamine shortages to mental illnesses like depression, addiction, and ADHD, someone could possibly use music's proven ability to increase dopamine levels to treat said problems.

2. Listening to the music has the potential to activate your brain's "reward center."

In 2013, Valorie Salimpoor and fellow researchers conducted a study that connected subjects' pleasure towards music to a specific part of the brain. This key structure, the nucleus accumbens, is the body's "reward center," which means all of you have experienced its magical powers. In fact, any time the brain detects a rewarding sensation— drinking ice-cold water after a five-mile run in sunny, humid Florida, eating that Taco Bell chalupa after a long happy hour at Knight's Library, and even consuming recreational drugs— this structure releases more of that fantastic dopamine. So, with further research into specifics, doctors may soon be prescribing your daily dose of tunes for your own health.

3. Listening to Music may be more effective than prescription anti-anxiety medication.

In 2013, Mona Lisa Chanda and Daniel J. Levitin— two accomplished doctors in psychology— reviewed a study wherein patients waiting to undergo surgery were given either anti-anxiety medications or music to listen to. The study took into account cortisol levels, which are used daily by healthcare professionals to gauge patient levels. This "stress hormone" was actually found to be lower in patients who listened to classical music rather those who took the recommended dose of prescription drugs. Sit there and think about that for a second: these patients actually felt more relaxed with something as simple as MUSIC than with chemicals that are made specifically to force patients into relaxation before surgery. Why pop a Xanax when you can just listen to Beethoven?

4. Music may release the chemicals that help you naturally relax and feel love.

Further studies continue to justify music's place in the medical world as results demonstrate increases in substances such as prolactin— a hormone that produces a relaxing sensation— as well as oxytocin— the substance that promotes warmth and happiness during a hug between mother and child. So this study basically showed us that music has the potential to actually make you feel the way you did when Mom or Dad would embrace you with the warmest hug you've ever felt.

The Future:

The evidence I present you with today is ultimately just a collection of individual situations where specific people found specific results. There are a lot of variables when it comes to any research study; therefore, data is never truly certain. We should take these findings as strong suggestions to a possible solution, but we must remember the possibility of failure in our search.

The neurochemistry behind the music and its medicinal properties is just beginning to unfold before the scientific community. In fact, extremely qualified scientists from the National Institute of Health— the organization that basically runs any important medical study in the United States— continue to remind us of the subject's youth with the constant use of "potential" behind any and all of their findings. Therefore, it's our responsibility as a community to look into this— not just that of the scientists at the National Institute of Health.

We're all surrounded by music. It's at the bars. It's in our ears during all-night sessions at the UCF library. It's keeping us awake through East Colonial traffic at 7:00 AM while hordes of students focus on their cell phone screens instead of the paved roads ahead. It's in the shoes we wear, the actions we take, and the words we say. IF YOU'RE READING THIS: it's accessible to you. So, don't be shy, and try to play with your Spotify account, or even just on YouTube, and gauge the power of music. As more and more of us see the light, we can promote the movement and carry on as more research comes out to support us.

Drop the bars, drop those addictive pills that destroy your body slowly, and pick up your headphones and press PLAY.

Just relax, close your eyes, smile, and live.

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Men Should Be Able To Give Up Their Parental Rights Before Their Child Is Born

If he's not ready to be a parent but the woman is, why should he be dragged into it?

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I have very strong opinions about abortion. Women everywhere should be able to access safe abortions, and men should not be allowed to force a woman to have a child just because he wants it. However, on the flip side, I do believe that men should have the option to give up their parental rights when their partner gets pregnant and decides to keep it.

Not everyone who gets pregnant is ready for a child. We continue to fight hard for a woman's right to terminate a pregnancy no problem, but we can't leave men out of this discussion. A man should not be allowed to force a woman to do anything, but there's no reason he shouldn't have his own rights. If a man feels that he is not ready to be a father, he should be able to give up that title no questions asked.

When this is done, he should not owe the child anything. I know it sounds harsh, but why should he be harassed into helping a child he's not ready to have? In this hypothetical, the woman has already decided that she is ready for the responsibility of motherhood and accepts the hardships that come along with it. It seems just as barbaric to force a man into fatherhood than it is to force a woman to carry a child she does not want full term.

I truly believe in this system because I'm tired of seeing children raised by inadequate fathers. Because there are so many teen pregnancies nowadays, I feel like I'm able to really catch a glimpse at young people completely unprepared for parenthood. I've seen countless young fathers ignore their children once they're born, and it's heartbreaking to see. The children's mothers constantly bash the fathers on social media where it'll live on forever. These children will grow up with fathers who mess with their heads. Sometimes they'll be around, and sometimes they won't. They'll make empty promises and constantly let their children down.

Therefore, why not avoid this problem altogether and give men their own voice in the abortion discussion? Let men revoke their title, and let them have children when they're ready.

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