Most New Years Resolutions are difficult to achieve because it means you have to break an old, unhealthy habit or build an entirely new one, so they don't last very long. However, I see them as a part of self-reflection and a long-term process. These are some aspects of my life I would like to change.
1. Be a more mindful listener
I have the talking part down, but I tend to be very selfish and talk about myself a lot of the time to carry conversations. I want to be able to ask questions and get other people to open up too.
2. Finish what I started
I have a lot of ideas in my head that I want to accomplish, but I always find an excuse to put it to the side. Even if it might not be the best, it would at least be done and something to critique for next time.
3. Take initiativeĀ
I let failure stop me a lot this year and played everything safe this year. I felt extremely restless and bored, so I need to actively find new activities to keep me occupied.
4. Spend my money wisely
Spending wisely doesn't mean not spending money at all. It means keeping track of where it goes and thinking through subscriptions and large expenses.
5. Better presentation
I could go days without wearing makeup or brushing my hair in high school, where everyone basically knew what I looked like already. When I got to college, where first impressions happen every day, I realized it's important to look put together.
6. Be more open minded and sympathetic
I used to be a very big softie and cry a lot. As terrible as it sounds. I really don't like listening to little kids cry. I felt like I lost a lot of sympathy for others and would like to get it back.
7. Don't overwhelm yourself as often
My mother says I overthink because I know too much and think of all the possibilities. This becomes stressful and wastes a lot of energy that I don't have to spare.
8. Bring back my extroverted sideĀ
I had enough time and distance to understand who I want to surround myself with closely, but it doesn't mean I have to cut myself off from everyone else that I don't consider as close friends. Not everyone I meet will become or stay my friend, and that's okay.
9. Take my time
I always feel like I never have enough time to accomplish my goals. Now that I have a year ahead of me, I don't feel as crunched. I have a plan, but everything doesn't have to happen within a week or a month. The best advice I received this year is progress doesn't have to be dramatic, the baby steps count too.
10. Learn to officially let go
It's easier said than done to forgive people. I know healing is a process, but I feel stuck on completely disassociating myself from toxic relationships by being connected via social media. Thankfully, Instagram has a mute button, but I want the courage to give myself closure and walk away with myself at peace.
11. Be more mindful of my health
My body is extremely sensitive, so I know when I'm not feeling my best. However, I tend to push aside going to the doctors and give myself a day off. However, some problems like fatigue are becoming more serious. I have questions about my body that WebMD won't be able to answer.
I hope 2018 has treated you well, and if not, there are 12 months ahead of you to restart. Have a happy new year!