10 Ways To Support A Friend Through A Break Up

10 Ways To Support A Friend Through A Break Up

"My friends are the most important thing in my life."

Break ups aren't easy for anyone and with them comes a lot of gray areas. Your own personal break up can make you feel like you are all alone, so having friends there to support you through it is something that you'll definitely need. But sometimes watching your friend go through a break up, almost seems worse than the break up itself. Here are a few conscientious ways to help support a friend through a break up.

1. Don't speak too bad of the "ex" too soon.

When your friend comes to you heartbroken and crying, its easy to place the blame right onto their ex. But don't fall into the trap of bashing on the ex too quickly, you never the chances of your friend getting back together with that person and then you will have gotten yourself into trouble.

2. Listen (a lot)

Sometimes your friend just need someone there to vent to, to cry with, to talk to. They just need to know that you are there for them and giving them your undivided attention can be reassuring and make them feel loved.

3. Don't take sides

If both of the significant others in the break up are your friends, its best not to take sides. Although this may seem hard sometimes, let both of them know you aren't going to be stuck in the middle of them or choose, and you most definitely won't be a messenger. Stake your place and stick to it, while trying to understand both sides of the story and supporting the best you can in that way.

4. Respect your friend

Everyone gets over break ups in different ways--some want to be on their own for a little while, some want to get right back into dating. Try to help your friend steer clear of decisions they might regret, but also be there for them in their decisions if you believe it can be a healthy fit for them.

5. Reach out to them

Let them know that you are going to have their back through thick and thin, and with all the chaos going on in their life, you will be a constant. Send them a nice text or video chat them more than you usually would. Although they might not seem to appreciate the sentiment just yet, they will eventually when they are feeling better.

6. Keep them busy

Plan a few fun things for the two of you to look forward to in the next couple of weeks. You can get their mind off of the break up for a little while and enjoy some fun together.

7. Be supportive, not condescending

Your friend is hurting right now, and the last thing they need to hear is that you think their ex is a horrible, awful person that they never should've wasted their time on in the first place. (Again, they might get back together anyway.) It makes them feel like they are the horrible one for dating someone like that in the first place. Although it may have been well-intended, its not going to be taken that way.

8. Bring them food

Who doesn't love a tub of ice cream delivered at their doorstep? You don't even have to talk about the break up, just bring the ice cream over, put on Friends, and chill together.

9. Apologize for their pain

You can't take away their grief, but you can tell them you are sorry they are feeling this way. By letting them know that you are focused on them right now, will make them feel better and its nice to know they have someone their for them in this hard time.

10. Tell them how amazing they are

I'm not saying to tell them how amazing they are without their ex, don't say that. Just let them know that they are a truly great person who you love and care about, and that they still are that person even in a hard time like this. Be their cheerleader and give them a confidence boost!

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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10 Ellie Schnitt One-Liners Every Girl In Her 20s Needs To Hear

From Sorority Girl Twitter to voice of reason real quick.


As some of you right now probably is, there once was a day I too had no idea who Ellie Schnitt was. Now she one of my all-time favorite people; and we've never even met.

In 2018, she seemingly appeared overnight on everyone's Twitter timeline. Now she's living up every current Odyssey writer's fantasy by creating content for Barstool Sports straight out of school. While some dismiss Ellie as "everything wrong with Twitter" simply for tweeting her daily thoughts, I think she's vital to the platform.

In this day and age, it's hard to be a female, especially one in their 20s. There are expectations, disappointments, laughs and tears. Now more than anything we ladies need to a have a voice in the void looking out for us and letting us know it's OK to feel how we feel because we're not alone.

Here are some one-liners every twenty-something needs to hear by another twenty-something who just gets it.

1. When you're having trouble accepting that your feelings are valid.

Let's face it, the world would be a much better place if we were just honest with everyone about what we REALLY want out of life.

2. When the world is trying to convince you that being "selfish" is a negative trait. 

Ladies, it's time we stop considering being selfish as something to be ashamed of. Sure, there are certain circumstances, but learning how to put your own needs first is part of being successful.

3. When you need a quick reality check.

Part of learning how to be selfish also involves learning when and where to be selfish. There are times when you come first, but there are also times when you need to be a pillar of support for someone else, it's only fair.

4. When men try to knock you down a peg but it's 2019.

Highlighter in 2019 is the equivalent of belly button rings and low rise jeans in the mid-2000s, if you've got it, then rock it.

5. When you feel like you never even left undergrad and life feels strangely familiar.

Despite what your Facebook and Instagram feeds seem to be telling you, it's OK not to have your life completely together directly after undergrad. Sometimes it takes a year )or a few) to know exactly what you want to do with your life, that's exactly what your 20s are for.

6. When you start to question how much you should put up with.

Why deal with someone more than you have to? Sometimes the bare necessities is all you need.

7. When you need more some self-love than usual. 

Snap a selfie when you're having a really good makeup day, heck, post it while you're at it even though you just posted a pic yesterday. Take some nudes solely for the reason to admire yourself in them, it's OK to feel yourself in 2019.

8. When you're trying to explain that you HAVE closure but also kinda don't.

You know when you're scrolling through Instagram and you see the man who was never really your man suddenly eloped with his girlfriend of five minutes and you're still having wine nights with your dog? Yeah, this describes exactly how that feels.

9. Sometimes, we all still need even more reassurance than we thought we did. 

But in the end, that "break-up" with your man that was never your man helped you grow into the person you are today. Heartbreak and all, you've grown stronger through it all.

10. And most importantly, when you need to remind yourself what the real issues in life are.

Like I said, you're in your 20s You're allowed to have fun and enjoy yourself, and most importantly scam men for free alcohol.

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