Nearing the conclusion of my second year of college, I have been thinking about where I am compared to where I was. I have been thinking about how far I have come and how much I have learned. I realize I have learned a lot, not just academically, although I find myself to be far more intelligent than I was in high school, but I have learned a lot about the things that truly matter. I have learned a lot about reality, people, change, distance and myself. I have learned a lot about how the world works and I have compiled a list of the things that have helped me understand why the world is the way it is. Perhaps this will help you too.
1. Change is inevitable
This is common knowledge by now, but change isn’t always bad. You cannot stop change, but you can decide if you’re going to change for better or worse.
2. Humans are fallible
We all make mistakes because we are human. Choose the battles and grudges you want to hold, but don’t make a big deal out of small mistakes.
3. Do what makes you happy
Do not model your days around other people’s happiness. Be selfish sometimes and do what you want to do and be the person you want to be. You will never please everyone, at least please yourself.
4. Stop striving for perfection
Perfection is impossible. Don’t set your goals at perfect, instead set them at better. Strive to improve, not for perfection because improvement can be achieved, perfection cannot.
5. Be your own hero
There are lots of great people out there doing great things for others without recognition or reward, which is great. But not everyone is filled with such greatness. Sometimes you have to be your own hero because, while others can cheer you on, only you can lift yourself up and achieve your dreams.
6. Speak up
Think first, but speak up. Nobody can read your mind; therefore, nobody can flourish from your ideas if you keep them to yourself. Staying silent is an injustice to the world.
7. Be honest
Lying and sugar coating helps no one. People will judge you regardless, so you might as well be truthful. The truth can hurt, but in the long run, it is better to be hit by the truth from the start than waste years running from a lie.
8. Be grateful
We all have bad days, grumpy moods, sad times, but at the end of the day, if you are still breathing, then you made it. Take a deep breath, prop your feet up, treat yourself. Be grateful for the time you have as well as the people and possessions you have.
9. Don’t be controlled by fear
Nobody is truly fearless. Do not be afraid to be afraid. More importantly, do not be afraid of your weaknesses. Recognize them, acknowledge them, but don’t allow them to destroy you. We all have our kryptonite, but only you have the power to allow it to affect you.
10. Live and love
Remind yourself every single day to live life. Whatever that means to you, do it, regardless of circumstance. Love deeply and fully and tell those you love that you love them.
“Love the life you live. Live the life you love.” -Bob Marley