The year has geared up, and as it does, so has our desire to find someone who we will be able to share some of our happiest moments of it with. These days, it can be so hard to figure out how to truly get the attention of someone, as well as maintain your own healthy personal life. Here are a few tips to score that special someone:
1. Wear an outfit that you know he or she will be drawn to, and make sure you look the best you possibly can so that this person, hopefully, gives you the time of day.
Obviously you need to look your absolute best, as well as feel your absolute best when trying to impress someone. Having a bad day? Fake it. Put on a smile so you can hopefully get one from that special someone back. If you are truly trying to capture the attention and longing of this potential person, your appearance comes first. The personality, depth, and non-instagram based judgment will come way after your first few dates. For now? Make sure they have a good look at what you pray they want to hold on their arm for photos, parties, and maybe even family events.
2. If he/she gives you the time of day, make sure you cover all of the topics you believe they would want to discuss: not what you're actually interested in talking about.
Seriously, ladies and gentlemen come on! Showing someone your true colors is so sketchy if you are just starting to talk to them. You want them to know the you that you imagine would be perfect- not the you that is flawed, but also radiant from reform. Don't get confused.
3. Play everything super cool. Mixed signals are the only way to send them the right signal.
It happens every time. You start to get too needy or interested in someone and please this time just realize you need to take ten steps backwards. Being forward and polite is, yes, the most reasonable way to act towards anyone, but this isn't just anyone. Definitely throw this cutie for a loop. The more confused they are, obviously the better. If we didn't keep people at arm's length when trying to develop and understand feelings, how would we be able to even function?
4. If it isn't dramatic- it isn't real.
Nothing has been more true. We all know I'm not talking about the drama we see in movies that is passionate pursuit, but the kind that is actually effective. Mindless, senseless, and hurtful drama. How else would we test these people? If we like them so much, we need to know that they can absolutely get put through the ringer before we even consider moving to any next step with them, right? The highs and lows of this potential relationship need to be put to the test before it even starts. This gives us so much information as to absolutely nothing, but man is it fun.
5. Change yourself.
Alright, so this person is pretty awesome if they are looking your way every once in a while. The casual encounters that make your knees buckle are definitely the same for them- right!? Here is where it gets tricky. You have to change yourself. The only hard part about this is that you have to make sure you don't have any trace of your own fun, quirky, and thoughtful characteristics. Seriously you are so close to maybe making this a thing. Hopefully it's at least a "thing", I mean the word relationship is a big one so don't get too carried away. You definitely just need to adapt to making yourself the type of person who is very at ease with not knowing what is going on, denying what you really want, and being your best self. These are all such minuscule things to give up compared to what you could be getting in the near future.
6. Go out of your way to cross their path as much as you can.
If you're interested in someone, definitely make sure to know their routine better than your own. Do the elegant "Oh my gosh! How did I know you would be eating right now, walking to class, then living your life...haha small world!" shindig as much as you can. Don't wait for someone to actually state they want to be in your presence- make it happen yourself! You have a better understanding of how they are feeling than they do, so make sure you catch them off-guard as much as possible. It makes them want you more.
7. Follow the strict social media rules you know in your heart to be effective.
Listen to this because I will not say it more than once: make sure you check in on what they are doing online at all times, but don't like that picture too soon, do NOT text back within this many minutes, and of course make sure that if *fingers crossed* this "maybe" scenario turns into a "babe" scenario you post on some form of social media as soon as possible so people will absolutely know.
8. Don't settle for patience.
We discussed other rules that involve waiting and wanting, which is a surefire recipe for a good courtship. However, the only court you will be in is the case with this person when you keep acting short with them. Time is of the essence, duh, so try and make a timeline of what you want (obviously need) to happen and when it has to, and stick to it. If something goes array, this should be your first warning sign as to life not going your way, and this is not acceptable.
9. Assume you know best when you don't know what they are thinking.
You are always right. This person might be talking with you, doing things with you, and going somewhere with you, but make sure you know that your opinion of everything going on is absolutely the correct one. It does take two to tango, but this isn't dancing- it's potentially liking/crushing/talking/dating. Conversations to figure things out are so boring.
10. Don't bother looking at any tips that say they will help you find someone. Live your life, love your life, and if someone is a potential awesome addition to it, keep doing you. The rest will come into place.
By now, I'm praying, you all understand that there is no perfect plan for being with someone. You must be yourself, you must be for yourself, and there is no need to shift the amount of light you display to the world for someone. If you want, simply help to shine it on them. If someone isn't giving you the time of day, then frankly, they aren't worth any time in your day. You're beautiful, as well as spectacular. Never undermine your meaning or feelings for someone else. It is great that technology is part of our lives, but it does not have a rulebook or limit. Know what you want. Know that the most important thing is you, but hopefully by being you you help others to want to be themselves. Don't be dramatic: be passionate. Be passionate about life, about friends and family, and maybe even someone else.
Don't create or maintain any rules for the way you should act or think- ever. Be as bright as you know you are.