When you're 20 years old the last thing you really need to be spending your time doing is wallowing over some boy.

But what did I do last week? Wallow. hard.

I was hurt by two boys last week, one old and one new but it hurt all the same especially when it's in the same 24 hours it really gets you down on yourself. However, I have decided from now on that I am going to try my hardest to focus on literally anything else, because all of this hurt isn't good for my character, as much as the movies make you think it is. Being sad is okay but not all the time and from the words of my roommate "You should never apologize for your feelings. Ever. You are entitled to that as much as you are air. There is value in you Leah, don't ever undercut yourself for the male gender."

I realized after this conversation with her that I am actually sad very often. I can dig myself into these holes where I dwell on every single "what if" and everything I could've said. There are so many things in the world that I can invest my thoughts in and my heart into at this transitional age of 20. I am no longer investing my heart into anything that does not invest in me. Whether that be people or places, if I feel undervalued in a situation I am going to leave it.

Here are just a few things that are more worth your time than boys that don't text you back

1.) Pizza and Buffalo chicken dip won't ignore you when you're on your period. Yeah, my mouth still works, to eat pizza with bye.

2.) A good bubble bath will never leave the bar without you because it is soap and water.

3.) Your girlfriends. Be with them. Be around them even when you want to be alone, you will feel better and they're always funnier than you give them credit for.

4.) A glass of red wine. Even if you don't like it and you think it makes your mouth taste as dry as cotton balls, it will make you feel like at least 30% of your life is moving towards adulthood. Remember that pink wine is for parties and red wine is for pretending you're mature.

5.) Clean sheets. Wash him off, wash it all off. Sleep in the comfort that the only thing on your sheets is you tonight. Sleep like a starfish. Wrap yourself in the covers because you can.

6.) A new highlighter. No Jesus christ not the pens. Go get yourself a new highlighter from Sephora and glow on the outside even if you're feeling gray on the inside.

7.) I'm not big into dogs however puppies really do it for me. A puppy will never tell you he's just not that into you.

8.) Write. I'm biased to this because I am a writer, however, I have learned through every single sadness I have endured that writing it out is the only way I truly feel better.

9.) Watch an incredibly sad movie. I know it sounds stupid because you finally finished crying, however, watching a movie with some drastically depressing plot always reminds me how small my problems actually are and it makes me appreciate the people around me.

10.) Talk to your family, the ones that have known you the longest. They're the ones that truly see your worth and know just how important you are. Even if you don't want to tell them everything all the time, they are there, and I promise you will feel like at least a little bit of your life makes sense again afterwards.

In reality, I could list about 100 things that are more worthy of your time than a 20 something frat star. I hope every girl has their moment of realization that they've been wasting their time on insignificant boys. I hope you acknowledge that there is someone that waits for you, there is a man praying for you and hoping for someone who is just exactly like you, he just hasn't met you yet. But do not waste your time trying to find him in every boy you meet. He isn't the one just because he understands your meme jokes the way the last one didn't. Stop trying to find the "one" in everyone. Love will come. You have to love everything in your life first, including yourself.