You probably have heard people telling you "You're so critical about yourself", but it's not the only issue. Everyday is the daily battle between you and your mind. It's not what you want to do either but you can't help it. These are 10 struggles that you're having everyday...
1. You always focus on the negativity
You’re pessimistic. You don’t like to talk about yourself. You think about your weakness way much more than your strengths. You focus on your flaws. You assume the bad result even before you start doing anything. You think you’re a burden. You recall bad memories all the time.
2. You think everyone else is better than you
You compare yourself to everyone and secretly get jealous quite often. You think everyone as smarter, better looking, a better person and you’re never good enough. You just wish you were like them.
3. You’re highly sensitive and always overthink
You get hurt with tiny negative comments. Even a little bad joke can bring your mood down and cause you tears. You take everything serious and tend to trust whatever people say.
4. You tend to assume that everyone hates you
Because you think there’s no good in you that people can love you, not talented enough, not intelligent enough, not pretty enough, not kind enough.
5. You think compliments are just flattery
You don’t trust compliments basically because you don’t trust yourself. You don’t look at yourself in a beautiful way so when people say it to you think they just say it because they are nice, or even worse you sometimes you think they lie for some certain beneficial purpose.
6. “It’s okay” is your catchphrase
Because you always try to put up with everything/everyone so you make that excuse to pretend that things are just fine.
7. You’re scared to deny or tell the truth
You don’t think much for yourself but for the others. You don’t want to make situations worse. You don’t want to hurt anyone; you don’t want to make anyone feel bad and sad like you because you know how it feels like when you receive a bad comment or when people turn you down. You always try to please others for a better relationship no matter how much it displeases you .
8. You don’t speak up
Because you’re too afraid to be wrong. Indeed, you always assume your ideas are dumb and wrong. You don’t want yourself to appear more foolish when you’re already not good. You’re afraid to ask for anything because you’re afraid to be rejected.
9. You apologize way too much even when things aren’t your fault
Instead, you take the blame from the smallest matter like bumping into someone or bigger responsibility such as when group work doesn’t turn out to be excellent.
10. You think your achievements are average and due to good luck
Because you always think of yourself as some sort of failure or not talented, you view your work as normal or dull, that you need to always try harder to achieve something bigger.
Nevertheless, having low self-esteem constantly gives you motivation to strive for a better goal in life, to keep looking up to people who are better than you and try to be like them.
Every time you compare yourself with someone, instead of letting your negative thoughts dominate your mind, try to set up goals so that you can achieve whatever you're jealous of them for. Compare you today with you yesterday or last week to see that you're getting better everyday.
Speak up to let people understand you better and to avoid unintentionally hurting you.
Think about it this way. Compliments are opinions and different people have different opinions. You may not like yourself but there are many others who look up to you. So whenever someone compliments you, just take it. Low self-esteem originates from critical judgments from the surrounded society. The more you accept positive thoughts about you, the less critical you are about yourself.
