10 Signs You Are In The Right Relationship

10 Signs You Are In The Right Relationship

9. They aren’t afraid to show you off.
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Being in a relationship can be difficult, especially if you are questioning if the one that you are currently in is the right one for you. These ten things are crucial in any relationship that wants to last the test of time. Keep in mind that the "right person" looks different for everyone, but should most definitely include these ten things!

1. You can trust each other.

If you cannot trust your partner, there are deeper issues in your relationship. Being able to be open and honest with your partner will allow your relationship to feel much less stressful. Furthermore, you will not spend all your time being nervous that your partner is doing something that they shouldn’t be. To conclude, if you have to tell your boyfriend or girlfriend where they can or cannot go, or who they can or cannot speak to, that is not trust, and you should not be in that relationship.

2. They are faithful to you.

This one is a no brainer. If you are with someone who constantly cheats on you, you need to get out of that relationship. The right person for you will be the person that never places themselves in situations where their faithfulness to you is compromised. If they truly love you, they will respect the integrity of your relationship and hold themselves up to a certain standard in order to uphold that.

3. You guys have similar life goals.

Being on a similar life path is crucial in determining whether your relationship will last the test of time. Understanding if your partner wants to have children one day, wants to eventually get married, wants to travel a lot or maybe not at all, are all questions that will lead you to understand if you and your partner are compatible in the long run.

4. You share some hobbies in common.

When school and work are over, being able to sit down and do something that you love with the person you love is the best way to connect with your partner. Cooking, dancing, hiking, working out, watching movies, playing board games, napping, stargazing; the activity itself doesn’t really matter, just the fact that you are doing it together. The right person will have some, but maybe not all, things in common with you!

5. He/She makes you laugh.

Happiness in a relationship can often times stem from you and your partner being able to bond over the silly things that you find funny together. The right person will be completely on board to watch that video of a panda sneezing for the hundredth time because they find it just as cute and hilarious as you do! Laughter is also key because it is the best pick-me-up in any situation when you might be feeling down. The right person will be able to bring a smile back on your face in no time because they know you and what will make you feel better.

6. He/She helps you through the bad.

Every relationship goes through ups and downs. What is key is that you guys come out of the hard times, no matter how long they persist, as a stronger couple. The right person will stick with you through your lowest moments, and never leave your side as you deal with the harshness life sometimes has to offer.

7. You guys get along with each other's siblings.

Now this one is a little odd, but still very important. Parents are often hard to impress, but if you are someone who is close with your siblings, you can typically feel if the person your sibling is with is a bad seed. Even if you aren’t close with your siblings, the right person will take the time to get to know your family and be kind to them. If they don’t treat your family right, they might not be the right person for you. Furthermore, having your siblings be comfortable around your partner and vice versa creates a sense of harmony, which adds only positive vibes to your relationship.

8. You guys are exclusive to one another.

The right person is the one that wants to be with you and only you. If you are looking for a committed relationship, then you should be with someone who wants to be in one, too. If you are looking to be in one and your partner is hooking up with a couple different people other than you, that is not the person for you because you want different things (see tip number 3).

9. They aren’t afraid to show you off.

I am not one who fully supports constantly flaunting one’s relationship on social media because I do believe that many couples use the likes they get on Instagram as validation for their relationship. However, no signs of your relationship on social media can also be a red flag. The right person will be willing to post cute pictures of you guys every once and a while, just to show that they are proud of your relationship. #couplegoals.

10. They challenge you and make you a better person.

The right person for you will be the person that challenges you to be better when you stop challenging yourself. They will be the person who motivates you to be the best version of yourself and who cheers you on when you achieve your goals. The right person for you will bring out the best sides of your personality and allow those sides to blossom. Overall, this person will never hold you back from your dreams and aspirations, doing everything that they can to be there for you while you are on your journey to achieve them.

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To The Guy Who Treated Me Like Crap

In many ways, I feel bad that you could never see how amazing I am.
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Dear (insert guy's name here),

I’m sorry that I acted as your footstool for so long. You treated me terribly, and for some reason, I couldn’t see that. I only saw you as someone who liked me and wanted to be with me (at least, that’s what I thought). I was like a little puppy dog following you around, completely loving and loyal. I was always waiting for you to text me, posting Snapchat stories for the sole purpose of knowing you would see them and always hoping you would come around when I was out with my friends so I could show you off.

No matter how hard I wanted us to work out, I now realize it never would have.

You weren’t right for me because you treated me like I was your inferior. You were always talking to other girls, flirting with them, and treating me like a child. You were so selfish. Only doing what you wanted and coming around when you felt like it and taking advantage of me. You made me feel crazy when I got mad at you for all the little things. I was so caught up in you that I tried to ignore all of the signals right in front of me.

You just weren’t right for me.

I now know that the right guy for me is the one who respects me and chooses me over everyone else. The guy who never makes me feel insane for questioning something, the guy who understands when he’s done something wrong and can live with the consequences. You just simply couldn’t provide that for me. In many ways, I feel bad that you could never see how amazing I am.

While I may have been so upset when our relationship ended, it made me realize who I am and what I deserve. I deserve so much more than someone putting in 50 percent. I deserve an endless amount of respect and communication. Putting in your all for a relationship when they can’t do the same is not healthy and it’s childish. I hope someday you can find a girl that you can love infinitely but I take a lot of pride in knowing that girl won’t be me. I may be single for a really long time or I may find the one tomorrow, either way, I have so much hope that one day someone can give me their all and make me feel incredible.

For now, I’m done wasting my time on guys like you who make me feel miserable.

Sincerely,
The One Who Got Away

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15 Ways To Support Your Military Significant Other

The military is not like any other job.

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15 ways to support your significant other in the military. Being a MILSO is terrifying, lonely, and frustrating. Here are some tips to get by. YOU GOT THIS!

1. Understand that they will be busy

The military is not a 9-5 job with a lunch break. It could be drill or deployment, remember that they are going to be busy. He/she might not be able to call every night, text you, or answer your texts in a timely manner. They are busy, you should stay busy too.

2. The military is not a job, it is a lifestyle 

Unfortunately, you cannot pick and chose when you are a military spouse, girlfriend, or boyfriend. You are expected to act like a MILSO 24/7. You should support them 24/7 and be a listening ear when needed. Your SO does not have a normal job.

3. Become independent

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You will be away from your military significant other for days, weeks, months, or even a year+. This is overwhelming and exhausting. But think of it as an opportunity for you to gain independence, work on your own dreams, and become the person you want to be!

4. Trust, trust, and more trust

Do not take this one lightly. Being a significant other, in any relationship, means trust. You have to believe that they mean what they say. You have to trust them when they cannot answer your texts or calls. Believe that they are doing is important and you can wait.

5. Prepare for deployment

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Unfortunately, this is a very real side of being a MILSO. You never know where and when they are going to leave or for how long. Welcome to the roller coaster (;

6. Do not date them for the benefits 

The job is done because they love their country and want you to be safe, not for the military pay or benefits. It is not glamorous, or worth it just for the health insurance! Do it because you love them.

7. Become a support system

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Support them every day, through words, actions, and reassurance. This job is not easy. Do not be pushy with details. Let your significant other come to you when they are ready.

8. Lean on other MILSOs

Because nobody says you have to do it alone.

9. They are missing you too

Just because they are busy does not mean they are not missing you. Not only do they not have you, but they also do not have their house, bed, family, or even their own country at times!

10. If you have children, be prepared to become both parents 

I, personally, do not have children. However, growing up in a military family, I had my mother play my father role. It is scary but it is possible. Do not expect to be perfect.

11. Be flexible 

When I first started this journey, I thought, "It is the military, when they said he will be home at 6:00 pm, he will be home EXACTLY 6:00 pm!" I could not have been more wrong. FLEXIBILITY IS KEY!

12. The military isn't closed for the holidays

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They will not be home for every holiday, every birthday, or every plan. Plans are made to be changed. Nobody can control the military or its timing. Be prepared to have Christmas in January.

13. Be proud of them 

What they are doing is not easy. It is scary, stressful, exhausting, and time-consuming. They are doing it because they care. Show how proud you are of them.

14. Hug them...all the time

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Appreciate the time you have together. It means the world to both of you.

15. Send packages, letters, texts, ANYTHING

They are looking forward to what you have to say. After their long day, they want to see your texts and packages. Make their job a little more tolerable.

Good Luck, fellow MILSOs! YOU GOT THIS

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