Perhaps all this talk about f*ckboys has just become a common trend.

A trend of writing posts about the different kind of f*ckboys that millennial women are encountering, and a few tips and tricks to utilize to combat these kinds of men. If it has, my only thought on it is this: stop writing about f*ckboys. Do they exist? Sure, of course they do, but those aren’t the only kinds of men in the world, and the more we write about them and their prominence in society, the more women with loving and compassionate boyfriends will start to worry whether they too are dating a f*ckboy.

So, to all those women out there who aren’t quite sure if the man you’re with is a stand-up guy, here are the 10 things that I believe demonstrate his true love for you.

1. He calls you beautiful, not a “dime piece”

It doesn’t matter how many guy friends you have or how accustomed you think you have become to the f*ckboy culture. If you’re a woman, and you over hear a guy calling the girl he is with a “dime piece” there’s a part of you that wants to roll your eyes. Truth be told, if he really cares about you and is attracted to you, he will acknowledge it by calling you beautiful.

2. He walks on the outside of the street

The old-timey movies show it best. When a man and a woman are walking somewhere, it is always the man who is walking on the outside of the street and placing her on the inside. The man that you are with should feel protective of you, and if you’re with someone who truly loves you, and isn’t just using you to get off during the week, you can bet that he’ll be the one hugging the edge of the curb.

3. He kisses you/says “I love you” just because

Someone who loves you is always going to take the time to make sure you know how they feel about you- no matter what the cost may be. That being said, if the man you are with is constantly kissing you or telling you he loves you “just because”, you can exhale a sigh of relief knowing that he means it, and he’s in it for the long haul.

4. He grabs you out in public

Forgive me for being harsh here, but if you are out in public with your significant other and they are hesitant to touch you, you really need to rethink your relationship. Someone who truly loves you should be proud to grab you out in public- whether it be to dance at a bar or simply a subtle hand hold underneath the table, those small physical actions say a lot.

5. He would fight for you

Rarely do we as women ever get into a physically aggressive situation when we are out in public, but on rare occasions, it can happen. When that possibility presents itself, make sure you have a man standing next to you who would step in and fight Shrek, even if he happens to be the scrawniest guy around.

6. He holds you when you cry

Everyone has emotions, but not everyone feels comfortable being emotional. Still, there are times when work was just too stressful and life is simply too hard to keep all those emotions and tears in. When that dam to your sensitive side just can’t hold up anymore- be sure that the man standing you’re with is ready with a box of Kleenex and a comforting hug to make you feel better.

7. He rubs your back after a long day

Most of the time, when you see your significant other at the end of the day, they have also had a long day. Between work and early morning commutes, you’re both completely fatigued when you walk in the door that night. Most men wouldn’t want to put in the extra effort to rub your aching neck after slaving over a desk all day, but a man who loves you will do it without hesitation- pick that man.

8. He always wants to know how you are

“Sup? You doing anything tonight?” is not the text that you should be receiving from a man who claims that he loves and cares about you. Someone who cares and wants to know how you are doing will remember when you have that presentation you are nervous for, and will be considerate and ask how you are after learning that you just got diagnosed with some rare disease. Choose the guy who is going to stand by your side and wants to be a part of your happiness, not the guy who just wants you for his own happiness.

9. He doesn’t f*ck you just to f*ck you

I would hate to use the age-old saying, “making love” here, but I feel that it’s necessary. Although you may not technically want to refer to it as that, that is exactly how it should feel when you are with the person you want to be with, who also wants to be with you just as much. If you are with a man who loves you, he will always make sure you know he’s not just trying to fool around for the sake of fooling around.

10. He means it when he says, “I love you”

One of the best pieces of advice I got as a young girl was about men from my mother. “Men will say and do just about anything to sleep with you.” At the time, I didn’t believe her, but after having a few years of experience with various men, I have learned that she is correct. Bottom line, the man who really loves you will make you feel it to your core when he tells you that he loves you, and if you don’t feel it, you should consider reevaluating.

I’m no relationship expert, but from your average, hopeless romantic millennial, there you have it: the ten signs that I believe illustrate to any woman that the man you’re with really does love you. In a society that seems to be filled with f*ckboys, there are a few diamonds in the rough, so don’t lose hope. When you find him, you will know, and you will be wise to never let him go.