To The Girl Who Doesn't Know Her Worth
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To The Girl Overcome With Self-Doubt, Your Worth Isn't Measured By Others' Inability To See Your Greatness

You deserve so much more than what you've been settling for.

To The Girl Overcome With Self-Doubt, Your Worth Isn't Measured By Others' Inability To See Your Greatness
Lauren Auleciems

Have you ever lied awake late at night wondering why you weren't enough for that one person? If you're anything like me, the answer is: yes, all the time.

So why do we spend so much time focusing on what we think is wrong with us rather than focusing on what we even saw in the other person in the first place? It's so easy to get caught up in the "I'm not good enough" mindset that we don't realize the people we were trying so hard to keep in our lives were maybe the ones who weren't good enough for us. We forget how amazing we are and how much better we deserve.

This past year, I have struggled with realizing my worth and settling for whoever has walked into my life.

This has left me feeling and being used by boys who never truly cared about me. This led me to put a lot of energy into friends who only talked to me when it was convenient for them.

I found myself in a cycle of these toxic relationships, and whenever someone left my life I would spend so much of my time wondering "What the f*ck is wrong with me?"

If you ever find yourself in this position, there's something you need to remember: there is nothing wrong with you that makes you unworthy of someone who cares about you. You are incredible and you have so much to offer to the right people.

You need to see how amazing you are.

When you have low self-worth, you allow people to walk all over you. You allow boys to string you along. You have no problem initiating all of the communication within your so-called "relationships."

When you start to recognize your worth, you'll realize that those one-sided "relationships" aren't worth it. Your friends should give you as much energy as you give them, and a boy worth keeping around should be the one who is sure about you! If the people in your life don't reciprocate your energy and aren't sure about you, then it's time to let them go.

At first, it may be hard and you may feel alone at times, but I encourage you to find this love you have given away so freely to everyone else and give it to yourself.

Take time to do the things that make you feel happy — discover a new passion, cuddle up with a good book, explore someplace new, get your hair done, and so on.

Once you gain confidence in yourself, you won't feel the need to settle for the first person who walks into your life. You'll also attract positive energy which equates to quality friendships and healthy relationships.

The right people will admire you for you and you won't have to do anything to "keep" them.

When you find yourself in a situation where the people in your life don't make you feel good about yourself, I hope you find the courage to love yourself and let them go.

Life is too short to waste on people who don't make you feel as amazing as you are.

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