Life is tough. People will upset you and you will get into fights with people. That’s just a given part of the world that we live in. When this happens, there are always two sides to a story. This does not mean that there is a right side and wrong side to each and every argument or fight, just that there are two different sides. These two sides need to be respected.

When there is an argument or fight between two people, things can get nasty. This is especially true when you are in college. Being a girl is filled with drama, whether you cause the drama or not. Whether you want to be a part of drama or not, it is a guaranteed that drama will find its way to you. This is the sad truth of being a girl. The number of petty fights that I have been in is ridiculous. I don’t know what is with girls who can’t seem to be chill and let things go. Guys don’t get into fights with their friends or let petty things end their friendship. When guys get upset with a friend, they just seem to let it go. Why don’t girls do this?

Girls are filled with emotions. I’ll be the first to admit that when something sets me off, I go off. When I get into an argument I go through a wave of emotions. I get angry, I get annoyed, I get sad, and then I end up upset again. I have a bad habit of not letting things go and holding grudges. I’m known for this, I get it from my grandmother. So, when I get into a fight I have a very hard time letting it go and I’m sure that almost all girls can relate to this. However, when an argument or disagreement occurs, it is very important to take the high road and be the bigger person.

Being the bigger person does not necessarily mean letting go of things that are bothering you. It means that you are not going to make a big deal out of bad situations and not let anyone get to you. When you fight with someone, it is important to be respectful. In return, this will make you the bigger person. Fighting and arguing like a child will get you nowhere in life. However, being respectful and professional in tough situations will get you somewhere in this crazy world that we live in.

I know that it is so much easier to scream, yell, or make a scene when you are upset. If someone hurt you, more often than not, the natural instinct is to want to hurt them back. This is the truth for whether it is a physical fight or a verbal one. It is in our human nature to attack back when attacked. I understand that fighting back is so much easier than being the bigger person. Trust me, I am not always the bigger person. I tend to let my emotions get to me. I will say or do something that I know is wrong and that I will regret later on. It is OK to lash out as long as, at the end of the day, you understand your mistakes, own up to what you did, and right your wrongs.

Owning up to your mistakes still makes you a bigger person. Righting your wrongs makes you a bigger person. Being respectful and handling situations in the appropriate manner makes you the bigger person. In this college world that we live in, it may be easy to forget that we are adults and that we will soon be let free into the real world to run wild. This is why it is necessary to understand the importance of being the bigger person.

When someone pisses you off, you are allowed to feel pissed off. You are allowed to bitch and complain to your go-to person for however long you need. Get it off your chest. Then, let it go. Let whatever that person said go. If they don’t need to be a part of your life, remove them from your life. If you are forced to be around them for any reason like a job or class, then be civil with them. Don’t let them see you sweat and hold your head high around your haters. At the end of the day, you will be the real winner by being the bigger person.