And lucky you, just in time for the holidays. Take this advice as an early gift from me to you. Your hometown hookup needs to go. Send them packing even if it's conveniently two blocks away from your current residence. You don't need them anymore. You've gone to school and lived life and became a completely different person than you were in high school. You have come too far only to revert back to the sniffling high-schooler when you come home for that month. I am begging you deep down from the bottom of my heart, let go of the hometown hookup. Do you hear that? It's the cries of your former self as you backslide into your past mistakes.Â
Most likely, your hookup is an old beau. In the slim chance that your hookup is that random person you had an inexplicable crush on throughout high school, go right ahead. I am not one to stand in the way of fulfilling dreams. As for your ex, this story is as old as time. Being with this person brings up those nostalgic moments from your youth.Â
When you're at school you don't think of them. Everything is new and exciting and completely yours. Then you come home. Your room still has homecoming photos and that sweater you can't force yourself to give away because you tell yourself you're going to need it one day. Being with them feels like putting on those old jeans only to realize they still kind of fit.Â
Truthfully, they don't fit at all. They are probably the ugliest pair of hypothetical jeans you own; it's all an illusion. Let me be the first or the hundredth person to tell you, nothing good has ever come from getting stuck in the past. You broke up for a reason, may it be college or lives going in different directions, or you realized they actually suck. It could be all of the above or none of the above. The specific reason doesn't matter. Let them go. You can't hear the cry of the independent college student you just spent months creating over the joyous triumph of your younger-self delighting in the comfort of your old ways.Â
You are better than who you've been. Each day you grew as a person — without them. You don't need them anymore and if you're being honest with yourself, you know that damn well.Â